• Richard Chan

This is my wife, she was abused!

We hear this a lot: He is a rescue. He was soooo abused. I feel so sorry for that poor little thing... Dogs are a creature of habits. Their behaviour is shaped mainly through living with their pack and observing their owners and their surroundings. If you keep having dogs with the same problem again and again, it is not because they are all rescued or abused but because of how you have lived with them. Saying "he is a rescue", "he is abused" or things like that will not help anyone to change and improve. It will not help you to know how to address the issue and it cannot help the dogs to move forward. Forget about feeling sorry and ask yourself, "what can l do differently?" Don't dwell in the past. Don't humanize the dog by showering him with nothing but affection and freedom. Don't give him a free pass because you think he was abused. Instead, improve yourself. Be proactive - address and solve the problems for you and your dogs now. The best thing you can do for a rescue is not to treat him as a rescue but a dog with unlimited potential that you and the dog can work on exploring and developing together. A rescue is not a dog breed. A rescue is not a privileged class who gets exempt from inappropriate behaviour. A rescue is a dog, nothing more, nothing less. When you introduce your spouse to someone you just met, will you say, "Hi, this is my wife, she was abused!" or "Please meet my girlfriend, she was adopted!" If not, why say "hi, this is my dog, he is a rescue"? 


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