• Richard Chan

Talk to your dog in silence.

Why are you talking to your dog in words you have never taught your dog before? Why do you treat your dog as a person who understands English? If you want your dog to go on his bed, but he is not doing it, why do you keep saying things like “no, come here, get on your bed, this way, yes, no, not that way, no don’t do that, silly, come here, not the sofa, no, ...” Imagine you are driving, and you are lost. This person keeps yelling at you from the backseat in a language you have never learned trying to give you direction that you don’t understand - will you find it helpful? When your dog does not know what to do, how do you think your dog will feel if you keep telling him long string of words that he does not understand? Instead of using your words, please work on using tactile (e.g. touch and pressure) and spatial pressure (e.g. your body movement). You can achieve so much without saying a word if you know how to “speak” body language rather than verbal language to your dog. We are so programmed to use obedience commands that we sometimes forget how to actually connect with our dogs in silence. We are so used to humanizing our dogs as fur babies that we often mistake them as English speaking creatures, rather than honouring and respecting them as a different species, who does not talk to each other in English ever. Next time, before trying to use a lot of English words to “explain” things to your dog, please stop, be silent, and use body and tactile language instead. For example, if you want your dog to go on the bed, use your body movement and/or your leash/ecollar to guide your dog. Help your dog to follow your lead in a language that speaks to his DNA rather than a language that he does not use in the dog world. When you can use touch, pressure, and body movement to communicate with your dog, you will find yourself understanding your dog on a much deeper level, and you will be surprised how easy and smooth everything becomes. 


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